Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Looks & Sex. Can They Be Rated Differently?

I have few guy friends, so when I get a chance to dip into their warped little minds, I take advantage. I try to ask all the questions I can possibly think of when ever i'm around them.  This may be why I have so few.  So recently I was speaking to one of those gentleman and I had asked him who the hottest girl he had ever dated was.  He told me that that was an unfair and rude question.  That as a man, he felt is was wasn't possible to really compare woman's looks, when everyone is different and is beautiful in there own way.  At first I thought that was sweet, but of course I had to take it a step further.  I then ask if he could name the best sex he'd ever had.  Well did he go on and on as to who, why and how this person rocked his world.  I mean he could remember, in detail, everything about this one person.  So I started to think, "Wait? You can say who's the best you've ever had, sex wise. But saying who's the hottest; that's rude?"  I finally asked him this, and he said it was completely different.  Of course I continued to press the issue, because that's how I am.  I told him that the assumption would be the person you'd consider best in bed, would be the hottest person.  But again, he said, very sternly, that the two were very different and that just because you're great in bed, doesn't mean you're the best looker in the bunch.  He continued that beauty and sex were complete opposites and one was more personal than the other. The more personal being, looks.  Okay, I thought.  Well now I'm just confused.

So I started to think? Are these two really that different? Can you not rate looks, but rate bed manners? In my opinion, I don't think so. I think both can be rated equally.  But, then if both can be rated equally, which would you rather be: 1. The hottest looking or 2. Best in Show?  I personally feel like I'd rather be the hottest person (besides the obvious of being both).  I'd like to know that all your ex's have been horrific and disfigured and I am the baddest chick you've ever seen, dated, fallen in love with etc, etc. Too much?  I mean I'm just saying...  But to be best in show? What does that really say about you? I mean lets face it, hookers are good in bed. From what I've heard. No, I do not have any proof to back that up. Sheesh, you know what I mean.  Anyway, as I was saying, anyone can be great in bed, but as great as they are, do you really want to wake up next to them in the morning?  And isn't the person who's great in bed, but not a looker, normally not the person you take home to Momma?

Now, it's not to say that a person can't be both, because I think you totally can be.  Isn't that why people get married?  They've found some hot little number that they're connected to spiritually and sexually and all that other great stuff.   But this topic all came about from someone saying that both can't be rated equally; you can either be some beautiful Aphrodite/handsome Adonis or you can be incredible Siren in the sack.   So what's your take on this friends and readers?  Can you rate them both equally? If not, then which is better?  I look forward to reading your answers.

Happy Blogging All!


  1. im not to sure?? Now u have me confused..at first I was going to say.."No they aren't related" but then I thought about it.. and I thought real hard.. and lately since my bf and I have both been going to the gym, and our bodys are getting more "fit" or "hot" whatever... we have had raging crazy sex like everynight... tmi...but u asked.. lol and we like each other more... so looks and sex have to be some how very closely related

  2. LMAO! Never TMI on my blog chica! See, I thought the same thing. I think the majority would say that the two have to have to be related somehow. If you're gonna rate sex, you have to rate looks. I just hang out with weirdos I guess. LOL.

  3. I'm extremely shallow so looks are more important.. and you can always teach him to rock your world.

  4. Looks are def important in order to have some good sex. . .because after all, you have to be attracted to the person. Seriously, I don't care how good they say some fool is... unless I'm into him... it just ain't happening. :)

  5. This is a good one I must say... Cuz even though initial attractiveness is the way to get into bed it does not mean he is gonna be any good... In my current rankings (yes I rank the guys I have slept with... so what!) My number one is not the best looking guy I have been with... and the best looking is actually at the bottom... soooo as much as looks are important it doesnt always promise a good time.